Hi guys! I thought I’d share one of my resolutions for this year today on the blog. Imagine a world where people stopped comparing themselves to each other, where we focused on the good and celebrated other people’s successes. That is the kind of world I want to live in and so this year I’ve decided to make a goal to do just that.
The Pitfalls of Comparison
I think the comparison is just part of being human, but it can sometimes leave you with feelings of envy, competition, or even guilt. It can start at a young age. I remember as a little girl coming home from a friend’s house and trying to scrub off all my freckles because I thought my friend was so pretty and I wanted to look more like her.
It’s easy to look at people’s lives (or Instagram profiles) and notice their perfect looks, amazing relationships, and outstanding careers. We start to think that since our own lives don’t look like that, that we’re not good enough. Some people think they’ll feel better about themselves if they tear others down or talk negatively about them. This totally baffles me. It isn’t healthy and leaves you feeling even worse than you did before, not to mention potentially hurting other people’s feelings.
The fact is that we don’t ever truly know what’s going on with other people’s lives and nobody’s life is perfect. We all have our strengths, our trials, and stories. Instead of pitting ourselves against one another it’s important to be positive and celebrate people’s achievements.
Three Thoughts on how to focus on the good and build others up
FOCUS ON THE GOOD
Positive attracts positive. When we focus on the good things in our life we attract good things and people into our lives. Happy positive people attract happy positive people and pretty soon you’ll be surrounded by a supportive team. It’s easier to overcome obstacles and pursue your dreams when you stay optimistic as well. If you find yourself feeling down or envious, start thinking about what’s great in your life and try making a gratitude list.
IF YOU ADMIRE SOMETHING ABOUT SOMEONE, LET THEM KNOW
If you see a stranger with great shoes, let them know. If your hubby looks extra cute one day, tell him. It doesn’t have to be anything big, but giving sincere compliments can really brighten someone’s day. Along with giving compliments, I think it’s important to let the people who you admire and love most know what kind of an impact they’ve had on your life. When you complement and are kind to others they are more likely to do the same for you.
CELEBRATE PEOPLE’S SUCCESSES & GET INSPIRED
If your friend gets an incredible job, be happy for him and celebrate! When you notice someone doing something kind, point out how amazing they are. It’s important to recognize people’s achievements and to be excited for them. Instead of getting jealous, be inspired. I love when I hear success stories and see others succeed because it gives me hope that one day I’ll do the same.
In short, don’t let comparison get in the way of your dreams, but focus on the good in your life. Try doing something each day that will make another person feel supported and loved. Celebrate other people’s achievements and be an optimistic go-getter who is inspired by others.
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